Stop Thinking Single

He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds. Psalm 147:3

There is a good chance that there have been some major changes in your life this year. Perhaps you have experienced a major illness, have become a caregiver, a child(ren) has gone off to college, financial upheaval, or even the death of a relationship or loved one. Any of these events (and others) can send us into a tailspin especially this time of year. “We just weren’t expecting this.” So true!

This time of year, can be most difficult for many people—even the person sitting next to you at church. They smile bravely but they can still feel all alone even when surrounded by loving friends and family.

How will you know what they are thinking? Ask the right questions. I heard part of a message on the radio as I drove to work and what I did hear made perfect sense to me. If you are aware of the inside scoop, and you know they’re struggling, don’t ask them yes or no questions about the holidays. Probe a little with inquiries that will need some deeper explanation.  Here is an example: Don’t ask, “Do you have plans for Christmas?” Instead, you might say: “What are your plans for Christmas?” If there are no plans, follow up with, “Our family would like you to come spend the day with us. I will be happy to come and get you at whatever time.”

You may not feel like entertaining a non-family member but remember that they don’t feel like being around other people either. However, it will be a blessing for both of you. Take your sharing and caring to the next level this year and stop feeling sorry for them!

Now, for you who are feeling all alone, the speaker said that you must stop thinking single. Yes, you certainly have your memories and that huge gaping hole in your heart, but you are not alone—even if you want to be. Look around, there are people in much worse situations and they could use your help. Even if it is distributing meals for the homeless or going Christmas caroling. (Do folks still do that?)

Our loving Father made it perfectly clear that we are not meant to be alone. Reach out as far as you can and then a little further during this season and every day.

Somewhere in Your Silent Night

Loving Lord, thank You for sending Your Son so that we will never, ever be alone. AMEN.